This weekend, while the world was happily enjoying their time away from work, some guy (or group of guys, it’s not really clear) from Fort Wayne, Indiana did something really fucked up. It all started when this photo was posted to Pantera’s Facebook page explaining the whole situation with the vandalization of Dimebag Darrell’s grave:
As was expected, the post went absolutely viral, as thousands of outraged fans cried out for justice against the guy who did this. Obviously, the internet isn’t completely anonymous, and there will always be a way to find out who you are if you’re not careful enough. The guy who did this ended up being the former vocalist of Nuclear Hellfrost, Reece Eber. Despite the original post, which told a different story, Nuclear Hellfrost released a statement on Facebook that cleared the air a bit, which said:
“The posts about us and to us are a complete surprise to us. Anything having to do with grave desecration was entirely a hoax put on by our former lead singer completely disconnected from the other members of the band. If you see Dimebag's grave you can see there is nothing carved into his grave, the only thing that exists is a photo of a piece of paper posted by the former member. We are strongly against any sort of homophobia, racism, or outright disrespect for a human being.
“We have nothing but the utmost respect for Dimebag and this is a misguided political publicity stunt that we were dragged into by a former member with an awful sense of humor. Nuclear Hellfrost as a band would like to apologize on this former member's behalf to not only Dimebag's fans, but most importantly his family. Again, the members of Nuclear Hellfrost had absolutely ZERO actual involvement in any of the alleged actions described by our former singer. Again, nothing but respect to Dimebag as a human being and condolences to his family. These are fabricated and contrived allegations on the internet that never happened in real life.”
Obviously, Eber was forced to come forward after hoards of fans descended upon him, and for good reason. The man had just defaced the grave of one of the most iconic figures in heavy metal, and seemed pretty damn proud of it. So, with the internet being as bloodthirsty as it is, death threats were sent, hate mail came in by the truckload, and it’s fairly safe to assume that Eber got himself doxxed and has every scrap of his personal information posted somewhere. Considering the circumstances of what he did, this could be considered a pretty tame internet reaction.
With that, he posted his own apology, owning up to what he did:
“This is Reece Eber, the guy who ignorantly acted like a fool and pulled the dumbest possible delinquent act of my life… And where to begin… I've become famous today in the worst possible way. My friends and I have received death threats and multiple insults over the past day or so, I've made the news, and all I can say to sum it all up is I'm deeply sorry. I acted ignorantly and completely out of line. There is NO reason for doing what I did, and when I say ‘I', I mean ME alone. My friends were not present for the event and should have caught up with them when they were walking away, instead i left a piece of paper with an insult to a man many people idolize and for a cheap laugh that I didn't think about the consequences. I did not carve into it and it was a piece of paper and nothing was stolen. I'm not asking for forgiveness, I'm not asking for sympathy, I am only attempting to express an apology that I want to reach out to the people I hurt and offended with this dumb act. There is no reason for what I did and it was the worst mistake I've made in my young and evidently dumb life. I don't blame the threats and comments. I understand how you feel and that's why I'm an asshole because I knowingly was out for blood, and so I don't blame anyone for wanting to do god knows what to me. The fact of the matter is I feel awful and guilty and this will stick with me forever, just like the Seinfeld guy using the N word…
“I can not express how sorry I am to Vinnie Paul and the Abbott family for the distress I caused, and the other members of Pantera and other acts Darrell was a part of. I owe everyone an apology for my actions because they were uncalled for, and horrible, despicable, and I went way too far. Some jokes are NOT funny and this is one of them. I took a joke way too far with a piece of paper and some hurtful words and as I've expressed, I don't expect any sort of acceptance or sympathy. I'm doing this out of the guilt I feel, knowing I caused this and I want to attempt to make it right even though I'm sure many will not accept this… I'm truly sorry for my actions and I'm sorry I put people I care about in potential danger and upsetting people for my selfish and morbid sense of humor. Anyways to wrap this up, I hope this was read, I hope at least someone will accept this and I hope for a better future for everyone…”
There’s been no report on wether or not charges are going to be pressed against Eber, but in all honesty, it seems like he’s learned his lesson enough. Even if he defamed the grave of someone who wasn’t the biggest figure in metal, it was still a sick thing to do. If he defamed the grave of someone else, he wouldn’t have received the torrent of hate that came upon him, in which case, pressing charges would probably be a good idea, but that’s not the case. For the rest of this week, Reece Eber will be one of the most hated people in the U.S. for some people, and that should be enough of a lesson. Maybe the whole thing was a publicity stunt to get exposure for his band, however, in which case, maybe he’s not sorry enough. The world may never know, though. All that can be said is that this weekend, some guy did something really fucked up.